Sep 152015
 
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Perhaps, the quickest way to rile and alienate your friends and colleagues, is to be a “know-it-all.” Always speak to them with surety. Let them know that you are always “on top” of the latest conversation subject. Always tell them: “I understand,” as if you could crawl into their minds and grasp their emotional heart-throbs without walking in their skin.

 "Taking the other person for granted," is often a serious communication mistake. Saying, "I understand" to a friend who is experiencing grief over the death of a loved one, is poor communication. Pic Source: Communication Skills - Communication Theory - fe13cs.blogspot.com

“Taking the other person for granted,” is often a serious communication mistake. Saying, “I understand” to a friend who is experiencing grief over the recent death of a loved one, is poor communication. Pic Source: http://fredyoungfuneralhome.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/bereavement.jpg

Make sure that you don’t become caught up, (actively) listening to your friends and colleagues. Always dominate the conversation and discussion. Lecture them. Make sure they understand that they are your captive audience and that you are always there to instruct them and lead them. Cursed be you if you vocalize empathy for them and repeat [paraphrase] to them what they’ve attempted to convey in reply conversation.

And, then, don’t neglect to tell your friends and colleagues (when they interact) that they don’t understand. Keep them at a “safe” distance. Make sure that you manipulate and control their thinking on conversation subjects you introduce.

Remember: If you desire to rile and alienate your friends, consistently practice 2 cardinal rules.

Tell them:

  • “I understand.”
  • “You don’t understand.”

Related to the above:

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“A thinking person will question what he hears; examine what he sees; and evaluate what others would have him believe.”

“When did big government and its mainstream media tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth?”

[Pastor emeritus Nathan M. Bickel] 

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Pastor emeritus Nathan M. Bickel

www.moralmatters.org

www.thechristianmessage.org

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How do you go about persuading someone to change their mind in a way that doesn’t alienate them?

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